Loyalty, is there positive and negative effects of being too loyal ? (REVISED)

Loyalty is a word that you either hear, or don't hear too often, and it is mostly described as a good personality trait or quality. I think that loyalty is very important in friendships, business relationships, and in personal relationships, but being too loyal to someone can have its disadvantages and it has me asking myself the question, is loyalty always a good thing ?

Loyalty has many positive outcomes and benefits to it. One benefit is that when you are loyal you earn trust, admiration, and even a thanks from someone important to you like your boss, your family member, or a lover. When you have trust from someone you feel good about yourself, and the other person would have a good feeling towards you, because you were loyal to them. Another good benefit of being loyal is that you earn a good reputation for yourself. Having a good reputation can be very important for you throughout your career and life, and in the yes of others you would be a person with a reputation that is unbreakable. Lastly from being a loyal person y wold have great success and have many life time opportunities coming towards you, because people know that you are a loyal trust worthy person who will not let them down.

Although loyalty is a very good thing in life, it can also have negative outcomes and cause some set backs in ones life. One negative outcome is that you can experience a lost of personal judgement and thinking ability for yourself. When you are too loyal to someone you start to lose your personal judgement and feel like they should decide what is best for you and maybe even how you should live your life. Secondly you can be be taken advantage by the other person whether its physically, or mentally. Being taken advantage of can lead you to doing things that you don't want to do, or taking a blame for the other person, because they asked you too and you have absolute loyalty for them. Lastly the other person would know you have complete loyalty to them and would probably end up mistreating you, and instead of thinking of you as a friend and human they would treat you like a slave or animal. Over the years I learned that loyalty is sometimes or usually a bad thing, because people usually never reciprocate the affection. My loyalty now extends to the extent in which they demonstrate their loyalty to me. I only do what I think or know the other person would do for me, nothing more and nothing less. That way, you don't get disappointed when the other person falls through and fails to show you the same kindness that you showed them.

To me personally loyalty means just three things to me. One is that you have someone to lean on, not just a regular friend or a by-stander , but someone you know who is loyal to you and you know will help you through your troubles. Secondly it means the willingness to help one another, by this I don't mean that they would lend you money or anything whenever you forget your wallet, but I mean that both parties should be willing to help one another through hardships , even if it is just helping bringing in groceries to the house. Lastly and personally to me is the most important is honesty. As I said before loyalty earns you a good reputation from others , trust, and success, but not only do you have to be loyal, but you have to be honest to or else how do you expect others to be loyal and honest towards you?

To me loyalty is a diverse word. It has its positives which could really benefit you,and it's negatives which could sometimes bring negative impacts to your life. I think to avoid these negatives impacts and effects on our lives, we should learn to stop when the negative effects are impacting the way you live, or think.